Being A Unrealistic Mom In A World Of Unrealistic Expectations

You see the headlines of should a mom be a SAHM or a working mom. The argument of weather you should breast feed or not. If you should give your child a spanking or give him time out. Should you do essential oils or should you take doctor only prescription. Having a house that is completely and perfectly organized or a house that is lived in and it shows. Going to church on Sundays or spending it as a family day. Should you buy all nice clothes at consignment shops or by clothes brand new. Your child needs to go to preschool or you need to homeschool your child.

You get what I mean. It can drive someone batty thinking about it all. We live in a time when everyone gives their opinion and most don't care if they hurt your feelings or not. Their way is right and "you need to look deeper within yourself to figure out how to do it right".

Here's my thoughts on all of the topics above.

If you can be a mom and work outside the home or you even have to work outside the home that is your prerogative. If you want to stay at home full time with your children or even if you don't have children yet, that's okay also!

If you want to nurse your child, you go right ahead! If you can't nurse your child or even choose not to nurse your child, that is okay also!

If you feel like spanking your child is the affective tool to use (I DID not say abuse!) then you do it with a loving heart. If you feel like putting your child's nose in the corner  is the most affective way to make them realize their bad behavior then do it!

If you feel essential oils work for you best then use them! If you feel like what the doctor prescribes works best for you then use them!

If you feel like a organized and neat home is what works for your family best, then organize till  your heart is content! If you tend to have a lived in home and people know it when they come over and that's what floats your family's boat, then keep floating it! (And no, I'm not giving people the excuse to have a dirty home. A "lived in home" does not mean a "dirty home".)

This one I'm more stricter on then I would dare say most people are, but I was raised a PK(Preachers Kid) and now I'm a preachers wife (which I thoroughly enjoy!) so I'm a bit stronger on this issue. Sunday is a day of rest and recharging. And I think you can get that recharging by going to church and worshiping the Savior who has saved us when we couldn't save ourselves! If you're down and out your home church is where you should get "that lift".

If buying newer clothes is what suits your family then by brand new clothes. If you can't get enough of consignment sales, then keep on a consigning!

If sending your child to a school is what works best for your family then send them to school! If you prefer homeschooling then homeschool!

You will find that I'm a pretty open minded person. I do have a certain way that I do all the things I mentioned above. But I won't write you off if you do it differently then me! What bothers me more then anything is when I overhear someone speaking with another person and their telling them that "this is how we do it" or "we give them this or do this" and the person their telling say."No! That is wrong! I would never do it that way or I would never go there!" That attitude drives me crazy! Lol. :)

You know what? It's okay if someone views something differently then you! Especially if they feel clear in it! Could you imagine what kind of world we would live in if we all thought and did everything alike?! It would be one boring world!!

So instead of going with what is pushed down our throat every day by the media and politicians, figure things out for yourself and don't let them teach you how to treat others when you disagree with them. If you do then what you come across like to everyone is what you think about politicians or media personality when their rude to others when they are in a disagreement.  Just think about that for a good while!:)

But one thing I highly recommend is to pray about it! If you feel clear in what you're doing then it shouldn't matter what people say. Weather they mean it nice or come across rude to you.

I hope you have a wonderful day and that you can figure out how to navigate this crazy world we live in wisely!

Keep your chin up and remember to always shine for Jesus!

XO! Mindy

Update On What's To Come

You know when you feel Gods thumb in your back and you know you need to do it, but you're not entirely sure about it? Well that's how I've been about this blog.

I know it's something that God has placed on my heart for now. I'm not saying I'm skilled in every area that I blog about and I probably never will. But if I have knowledge about something, I want others to know!

There has been a lot going on here lately in our home. Different changes that I'm not going to go into right now. Not all bad, most of it has been good changes!! :) That's the main reason why I have taken a break from blogging. I wanted to set back and think and pray about everything I am doing as a wife, mom and pastors wife. I want everything I do to be pleasing to God.

So if you will be patient with me there will be several changes to the blog in the coming months!

I hope you have a blessed Lords day tomorrow!

With much love,
Mindy

My Non Apology....

I have not posted anything since last Friday I believe. Tuesday I posted something on my Facebook page about some finds at Dollar Tree. 

I wanted to apologize, but at the same time not. Things have been crazy around our house since Saturday morning. Our youngest got sick with strep throat and both ears slightly infected. He's been on antibiotics and he's pretty much back to normal now. 

Our oldest son many know was born with hypotonia or "low muscle tone". His doctors feel like he has autism and maybe ADHD. He will be seeing a specialist soon. 

There are some days he gets into his own little world. I can work with him and by the end of the day I can help him get out. Not always is it like that though. Sometimes it last a couple of days, sometimes it last a week. We are now going on 4 days. He has moments of "being there with everyone else".  But they don't last very long. He isn't misbehaving because that's what he wants to do. He honestly doesn't know that he's doing something that mommy has told him not to do a million times. 

We are slowly but surely making it out of the tunnel. I've been putting his essential oils on him morning and night. We have a routine in the evening with him that we've done pretty much since birth. So we have to make sure we keep it.

With his low muscle tone one of the side affects that can happen is not much sleep and he has that. He went to bed at probably 1am and was up at 7:30ish this morning. He doesn't take naps in the day. And by the late afternoon he has dark circles under his eyes. I believe he just can't calm his little mind down and can't sleep. 

So my non apologies being, I wish I could post something every night, but when things are happening like this, my family comes first. 

Thank you for understanding and still following my blog and what I'm doing. You're so patient with me! 

I think I may take him sledding today since the snow is still powdery. I think he would enjoy it. :) 

Have a wonderful day and God bless!

The DIY Mom Blog,
Mindy

The Laundry Can Wait.....Literally

Today has been one of those days. It's rainy outside. Our youngest is getting his molars in. Our oldest is tired of being inside. Today was suppose to be my big cleaning day. Mopping floors, scrubbing bathrooms, dusting and doing laundry.

Nate (our oldest) kept begging for my attention while I was cleaning and Jordan (our youngest) kept pulling things out and making messes and was very fussy. I was about to go crazy.

Finally lunch came and we cleaned up. I put Jordan down for a nap & he fell asleep almost right away. I was thinking,"Oh yay! I can get a lot accomplished now!". Not so fast Mama! :) Nate was still wanting my attention.

I finally told myself to just forget every thing! Not to much longer down the road my boys won't be wanting me this much.

In my devotions I feel like God has really been speaking to my heart about spending more time with them. To put the chores aside, forget about people texting me, leave social media alone and spend time with them. Because now is when they need it the most!

So I got Nates toys out and we sat down and played. It felt pretty good to forget about every thing and focus on him.

(Our sweet Naterbug at 3 months old ☺️)

I can't believe how fast my boys are growing! Time flies!

Spending time with your children is worth everything!

If some one stops by and dishes are in your sink, who cares?? They can get over it if it's bothering them! And I'm sure it will bother you more then them anyhow!

Read books to your children. Build a car/house out of Legos. Play trucks/baby dolls with them. Let them help out with chores around the house! My boys love it when they get to help mommy! They think they are big stuff! :)

At the end of the day pray with them. That is one thing that will stick in their minds when they're older!

Now to get to my laundry and supper dishes done before I go to bed!

The DIY Mom Blog,
Mindy

P.s. Remember to kiss their slobbery cheeks goodnight! Or if your children are older, still give them a kiss goodnight! ;)

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